Writing

Things worth saying.

Essays on the stuff that's actually hard to talk about.

April 9, 2026

You Think You're Protecting Her. You're Not.

The reasoning that keeps most married men in the closet longest is the generous one. You're staying because leaving would hurt her. Because she doesn't deserve that. Because the marriage has been real, the life has been …

April 6, 2026

The Question Already Changed

If you're a married man reading this, there's a reasonable chance you stopped asking whether you're gay a while ago. The question you're actually sitting with now is what to do about it.

April 2, 2026

Asheville Fills Up With People Who Needed to Leave Something

Asheville fills up with people who needed to leave something. Pay attention to who's moving here and you start to see it. If you've recently ended a long marriage and found yourself drawn to these mountains, you're not a…