https://feralself.com Writing on coming out, religious trauma, masculinity, and life transitions. By Johann, life coach in Asheville, NC. en-us Fri, 01 May 2026 12:00:00 GMT https://feralself.com/blog/who-am-i-after-divorce/ https://feralself.com/blog/who-am-i-after-divorce/ The question 'who am I after divorce' isn't philosophical. It's practical. Here's what actually happened to your identity inside the marriage. Fri, 01 May 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/i-think-im-gay-now-what/ https://feralself.com/blog/i-think-im-gay-now-what/ If you're sitting with 'I think I'm gay' and the answer already feels clear, the real question is what to do with it. This is about that. Fri, 01 May 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/why-men-dont-ask-for-help/ https://feralself.com/blog/why-men-dont-ask-for-help/ Why men don't ask for help goes deeper than pride. It's an identity threat. Here's what's actually happening and what it costs over time. Tue, 28 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/walk-and-talk-coaching-asheville-trails/ https://feralself.com/blog/walk-and-talk-coaching-asheville-trails/ Walk-and-talk coaching in Asheville uses the WNC trail system as part of the work. Here's how sessions run and which trails work best for the conversation. Sun, 19 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/life-coach-western-north-carolina/ https://feralself.com/blog/life-coach-western-north-carolina/ Looking for a life coach in western North Carolina who gets it? This is for people leaving religion, coming out, or renegotiating who they are. Tue, 14 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/starting-over-in-a-new-country/ https://feralself.com/blog/starting-over-in-a-new-country/ Starting over in a new country is harder than logistics. Here's what's actually breaking you down, and what the real work looks like. Fri, 10 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/life-transitions-coach-north-carolina/ https://feralself.com/blog/life-transitions-coach-north-carolina/ Not all life transitions fit a planner. Find a life transitions coach in North Carolina who works with coming out, religious deconstruction, and identity rupture. Sun, 05 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/southern-baptist-deconstruction/ https://feralself.com/blog/southern-baptist-deconstruction/ Southern Baptist deconstruction and coming out aren't two separate crises. For queer men raised SBC, they're one earthquake with two names. Thu, 02 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/religious-trauma-and-sexuality/ https://feralself.com/blog/religious-trauma-and-sexuality/ Religious trauma and sexuality hit queer people differently. Not just shame. An identity that was made inconceivable. Here's what that means for recovery. Tue, 24 Mar 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/queer-identity-later-in-life/ https://feralself.com/blog/queer-identity-later-in-life/ Queer identity later in life isn't a delay. It's the outcome of specific suppression. What that changes about the grief, the work, and what comes next. Thu, 19 Mar 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/religious-deconstruction-coach-north-carolina/ https://feralself.com/blog/religious-deconstruction-coach-north-carolina/ A religious deconstruction coach in North Carolina on what happens when leaving your faith and coming out happen as one collapse, not two. Sun, 15 Mar 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/relationship-transition-coaching/ https://feralself.com/blog/relationship-transition-coaching/ Relationship transition coaching usually means divorce support. It doesn't have to. Here's what it looks like when it's built for queer people instead. Fri, 06 Mar 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/queer-men-asheville/ https://feralself.com/blog/queer-men-asheville/ Asheville is genuinely queer-affirming. But for queer men carrying religious shame or a late coming out, the city alone doesn't do the work. Mon, 02 Mar 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/questioning-sexuality-midlife/ https://feralself.com/blog/questioning-sexuality-midlife/ Questioning your sexuality in midlife? The fear comes from a specific story you were taught. Here's where that story comes from and why it runs so loud. Thu, 26 Feb 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/how-to-come-out-later-in-life/ https://feralself.com/blog/how-to-come-out-later-in-life/ How to come out later in life when marriage, faith, and identity are all load-bearing walls. A practical guide for men in their 40s and 50s. Fri, 20 Feb 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/polyamory-coaching/ https://feralself.com/blog/polyamory-coaching/ Polyamory coaching in Asheville NC for people recognizing they're coming out into it, not just opening up. What the work actually covers. Tue, 17 Feb 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/polyamory-asheville/ https://feralself.com/blog/polyamory-asheville/ Looking for polyamory support in Asheville? Here's why a coach might fit better than a therapist, and what working with one actually looks like. Sun, 08 Feb 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/coaching-vs-therapy/ https://feralself.com/blog/coaching-vs-therapy/ The coaching vs therapy question has a wrong frame baked in. Here's what actually separates them and how to know which one fits where you are right now. Tue, 03 Feb 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/opening-up-a-relationship/ https://feralself.com/blog/opening-up-a-relationship/ Opening up a relationship is harder when you're still figuring out what you actually want. What the guides skip for people carrying shame or a late queer identity. Fri, 30 Jan 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann) https://feralself.com/blog/men-and-vulnerability/ https://feralself.com/blog/men-and-vulnerability/ Men and vulnerability is a known problem. But for men raised in high-control religion, it's two separate systems of suppression. And that matters. Sun, 25 Jan 2026 12:00:00 GMT noreply@feralself.com (Johann)